Why you should stop criticizing

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Why you should stop criticizing


Lately I’ve been reading a book called “How to win friends and influence people in the digital age” – a modernized version of classic Dale Canegie’s best selling book. That’s one of the few books that I’d recommend to everyone because it is about one of the most important things that we all have in common – communication.

While reading that book I realized a few principles that I was actually holding on to before that made me more successful in almost everything. Since most of our lives are in some way connected with human interaction, relationships are the key to everything. From the career and finances to our love life – relationships take a huge part in every step we take no matter where we go. People who doesn’t realise that struggle in business, building networks of people, finding new friends, making new connections and opportunities and so on.


We all have our attitudes and points of view but very often we forget that other people may think different. By forcing or criticizing them, we just make them feel like they are being attacked and needs to defend themselves. That’s why we should stop criticizing people – simply because it doesn’t work. Instead of that just try to focus on the possitive traits that the person has. We should praise people more and if we have anything to add, we can mention about it and give a little advice and alternative solution for them. It’s mostly about the tone that we’re using while criticizing. The calm and reasonable way is a lot more effective!

Another reason why you should stop criticizing is that you should start focusing on your own life and goals. There’s nothing wrong about being helpful and caring about others but most of the time people don’t want you to interfere in their private life unless they ask your opinion. Just be helpful, humble and mind your own business. There’s a reason why it’s being said that:

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

Paul Alionis
Paul Alionis
At 19 years old I founded my first company, became vegan and completely gave up drinking. After a year of studying I couldn’t see myself working in that profession and decided to drop out and focus on building business. After a year of business developing, my company called GentleHair grew from Lithuania based first men’s hairstyling e-shop into international Europe leading e-shop. We started distributing hairstyling products to salons, barbershops and other e-shops worldwide. We grew our fan base through Youtube and other social media. Our Youtube and Instagram fan count reached 15k each, which is pretty impressive for such a niche project. I became the world’s leading “Cut your own hair” guru and started developing “Cut your own hair professionally at home | For men” online course. From 2015, I started other fashion business, worked as a business and marketing consultant in other businesses and as web-development, graphic and web design freelancer.

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